I QUIT
My job.
The lack of posting has really been a testament to how stressful and overwhelming...and decidedly NOT FAMILY FRIENDLY my job has been. After giving me the stink eye for a few months every day when I left at 5 or 5:30(despite coming in a full hour before everyone else), and mentioning that I never come in on the weekends, and then finally telling me that although they agreed to let me work from "home" one day a week, "yeah, we aren't going to let you do that anymore"...I said F.U.
Actually, I politely told them I thought it wasn't working out, and I was going to have to resign with a heavy heart, but could I have a recommendation for any future gig I might try to get? Thanks so much. I will totally miss you guys, thanks for being such great bosses!
But on the inside, I was totally "F.U. A-holes, you totally suck it and you have been resentful and mean since I got pregnant and have treated me poorly now that I have a baby and I'm pretty sure all the shit you have been heaping on me rises to the level of discrimination and I should sue you people because the whole thing has been unfair since last August right before I gave birth and you were emailing me while I was in LABOR and every day on my maternity leave...THEY CALL IT MATERNITY 'LEAVE' FOR A REASON you know, Jackass...and thanks for even asking about the baby ONE SINGLE M-Fing time...would that have killed you? You can take your "old school WASPY boys club firm" and shove it up your fat A$$.
I'm out Bitches!"
Pretty much the last straw came when they told me that I couldn't go on my already planned family vacation, for no particular reason other than they thought I didn't really need a vacation because "you had four months of maternity leave last year didn't you?" Oh, and the fact that they kept asking me if I was planning on getting pregnant again soon, and when did I think I would?
I'm sorry, I thought you were lawyers, and so would actually know the law. You know, like laws about not asking women when, or if, they are going to have kids...
Whatever, I'm over it. Friday's my last day. Then we head off to Cape Cod (which I just call "the Cape", but did you know that people from New Jersey think that "the Cape" could mean any number of locations?")
I am officially jumping back onto this blogging band wagon...starting July 4th!
I am BACK!
*also, let me preemptively tell you that I am not quitting to be a stay at home mom. Much as I would LOVE to do that, we simply can't afford it. So I'm taking a few months off (which we can afford) and then I am going to look for another job. So while everyone I have told about quitting has congratulated me and told me how nice it is that I am staying home with the baby...I am still a horribly guilty working mom who is just temporarily stepping off the treadmill of full time employment. But while I'm off - does anyone want to be in a playgroup with me and the baby? Because I am going to sign up for every single mommy and me thing I can possibly squeeze into the summer.
Being the mommy is my new gig. And yes, I will be happy to work late and on weekends.
The lack of posting has really been a testament to how stressful and overwhelming...and decidedly NOT FAMILY FRIENDLY my job has been. After giving me the stink eye for a few months every day when I left at 5 or 5:30(despite coming in a full hour before everyone else), and mentioning that I never come in on the weekends, and then finally telling me that although they agreed to let me work from "home" one day a week, "yeah, we aren't going to let you do that anymore"...I said F.U.
Actually, I politely told them I thought it wasn't working out, and I was going to have to resign with a heavy heart, but could I have a recommendation for any future gig I might try to get? Thanks so much. I will totally miss you guys, thanks for being such great bosses!
But on the inside, I was totally "F.U. A-holes, you totally suck it and you have been resentful and mean since I got pregnant and have treated me poorly now that I have a baby and I'm pretty sure all the shit you have been heaping on me rises to the level of discrimination and I should sue you people because the whole thing has been unfair since last August right before I gave birth and you were emailing me while I was in LABOR and every day on my maternity leave...THEY CALL IT MATERNITY 'LEAVE' FOR A REASON you know, Jackass...and thanks for even asking about the baby ONE SINGLE M-Fing time...would that have killed you? You can take your "old school WASPY boys club firm" and shove it up your fat A$$.
I'm out Bitches!"
Pretty much the last straw came when they told me that I couldn't go on my already planned family vacation, for no particular reason other than they thought I didn't really need a vacation because "you had four months of maternity leave last year didn't you?" Oh, and the fact that they kept asking me if I was planning on getting pregnant again soon, and when did I think I would?
I'm sorry, I thought you were lawyers, and so would actually know the law. You know, like laws about not asking women when, or if, they are going to have kids...
Whatever, I'm over it. Friday's my last day. Then we head off to Cape Cod (which I just call "the Cape", but did you know that people from New Jersey think that "the Cape" could mean any number of locations?")
I am officially jumping back onto this blogging band wagon...starting July 4th!
I am BACK!
*also, let me preemptively tell you that I am not quitting to be a stay at home mom. Much as I would LOVE to do that, we simply can't afford it. So I'm taking a few months off (which we can afford) and then I am going to look for another job. So while everyone I have told about quitting has congratulated me and told me how nice it is that I am staying home with the baby...I am still a horribly guilty working mom who is just temporarily stepping off the treadmill of full time employment. But while I'm off - does anyone want to be in a playgroup with me and the baby? Because I am going to sign up for every single mommy and me thing I can possibly squeeze into the summer.
Being the mommy is my new gig. And yes, I will be happy to work late and on weekends.
posted by Newlywife at 9:25 AM
19 Comments:
Congratulations and good for you! I have been watching your blog for awhile and really enjoy it because I can relate so well(particularly since I'm Mom to a 4-month old and married to a lawyer).
Enjoy the summer and good luck finding work at a more family-friendly place. And I'd love to do a playdate on one of my days off, but we are in Pennsylvania...
Rachel,
We are in South Jersey! WHERE IN PA? Email me! or Leave me your email...
Am I frightening you? Seriously, I won't stalk you or anything...I just need playdate friends!
You have some serious balls. And I mean that in the most feminine of ways. :) I'm so proud of you, deciding to make that step! Really, nobody should have to deal with what you did. And, dude. I'm sure many employees in your shoes would have filed a complaint against the company for discrimination. Nobody should tolerate that ish in this day and age. That's absolutely outrageous.
GUESS WHAT, PEOPLE! IF SOMEONE HAS VACATION TIME YOU HAVE TO GIVE IT TO THEM! TAKE THAT, BITCHES!
That was my angry rant; like it? :) I have a low tolerance for corporate crappola.
Anyhow, enjoy the time off with your babushka, and best of luck finding a job that will appreciate that you are not only a hard worker, but also a mother and wife. You'll find it, I'm sure.
Glad to have you back to the blogging world!
Hahaha... now... could it be that their sudden distaste for you had more to do with you referring to them as "bitches" and less to do with your baby??? hahaha, clearly I'm kidding :)
I am SO proud of you.
and... I do HAVE to point out the obvious. You have a REALLY good lawsuit here.
I am one of the least litigious people around, but what they did is just plain wrong.
You could EASILY sue them and live off the proceeds and never have to find another job again.
...just sayin' :)
So glad you are going to be back! Congrats on the time off!
Good for you!!!! :) What a fantastic thing to do for yourself and your family. Your old company can shove it where the sun don't shine! :) And YAY for blogging again!!!
I was just thinking this morning about how you hadn't posted in awhile and wondered what was going on...but being a new mom myself (to a 4 month old), I chalked it up to being busy.
Unbelievably...I am in a similar work situation - been a FT mom now for 3 wks but with a need to work eventually...additionally, my work situation was somewhat similar but not quite as blatant as yours. I have actually even gone forward with filing a suit as I have a HUGE cause of action..can't wait to see how it evolves.
Unbelievable that as a bunch of lawyers they would actually ask if you planned on getting pregnant again - WOW! Talk about clueless.
Anyway, if I lived closer, I would TOTALLY join you in some playgroups but since I'm in Knoxville, that would be hard to do.
Anyway, enjoy the summer!!
Woo-hoo! Congrats. Enjoy the SAHM gig for as long as you can--I know I am!
And we are free for playdates as well...
Wow, good for you! My husband to be (in just a few weeks) and I were talking about this often lately... we're both lawyers too. So, what I'm saying is, THAT was inspiring. :)
Whoa! Awesome rant--even if it was all inside your head. :) Enjoy your summer with da babe!
happy happy joy joy. Enjoy your baby summer.
Hello! I found you way back when you really were newlywifed, and I was too, and have enjoyed our somewhat parallel lives (I'm a working mom of an almost six-month-old baby girl). I admire your bravery amid obvious injustice and even though I don't know you, you make me proud! Enjoy every second of your time away! Christina
Good For You!!!!!
Are you in South Jersey??? I am too- I've been reading your blog (I seriously _LOVE_ it) because I found it randomly one day. I have a 6 month old son, and I live in Haddon Heights. Not many of my friends have babies.
Laura
my email is mrsrobinson78@gmail.com if you would ever like to get together!!
That's respect. I am so proud of you and so relieved for you. There is something so liberating in quitting a job in a hateful environment. Enjoy your time, it will be fleeting, but a time you will not forget.
The SAHM gig is strange for me and you know I've been doing it for TWO YEARS while working part time out of our office. When you come from a life of working full time since 'Nam (or at least since you were simultaneously a full time college student) like me, it takes a long time to get used to mostly kiddies and few adults. But I know that while the days are long, the years are short and try to remind myself how lucky I am (even if our budget is lean.)
Hooray for you!!!! XOXOXOXOXXO
Yay so glad you're back! And congratulations on standing up for yourself, your daughter, your family, and what's right for all working mothers. I am expecting a son this August and I am anxious about how I'll be received when I go back to work in January. Your decision makes me hopeful that even if work doesn't work out, life will go on. I'm so happy to see other families who value FAMILY as much as my husband and I do. Enjoy your time and GOOD LUCK for the future job search.
Newly-
I'm so happy for you for sticking up for yourself!!!! Enjoy the break and the time to bond with your adorable baby. (Wouldn't it be great to stretch the break into the new year so you can have a stress free holiday season???) Maybe I'm dreaming... but either way- no matter what you do it will all work out! I am a firm believer that things happen for a reason and obviously a better place is out there waiting for you. In the meantime, you have an awesome job at home!
Enjoy your 4th at the Cape! A place I would LOVE to visit- I was born and raised on the West Coast and haven't made it any further than NY ... so I am quite jealous- one day.. I hope to see it! I do hope that you post some pics, that would be great!
Take Care!!
-EW
Wow - good for you! Unless you have to be at court, deposition, or some meeting, there is no reason for you to be tied to the office for arbitrary daily hours. I come in early, leave early, and do work from home as necessary. Obviously, if something needs covered, I'll cover it, but at least those longer hours become the exception, not the rule. Best of luck in finding a family friendly firm. The partners at my firm both have 6 kids, and although they are male, they understand the importance of family and a mom's need to be around!
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